The most important property of humankind is the capacity to form and maintain relationships. These relationships are absolutely necessary for any of us to survive, learn, work, love and procreate.  Human relationships take many forms but the most intense, most pleasurable and most painful are those relationships with family, friends and loved ones.  Within this inner circle of intimate relationships, we are bonded to each other with “emotional glue” – bonded with love.  Reference Bruce Perry – Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children. WOW

We talk about Bonding and Attachment in the first few hours of life with importance. Bonding is the process of forming attachment.  Bonding, therefore, involves a set of behaviors that will help lead to an emotional connection (attachment). But how important is it?  What is the ultimate outcome of not bonding and no attachment?  Ultimately those that are bulling or shooting others may arise from poor bonding and attachment.  We certainly don’t think our brand new baby will be the school yard bully or the child that gets a gun and shoots other children in our schools.  Yet, the initial brain develops neural chemical activities that are responsible for healthy…

Timing is everything.  During the first three years of life the human brain develops 90% of adult size and puts in place the majority of systems and structures that will be responsible for all future emotional behavioral functioning during the rest of life. The most critical periods appear to be in the first year of life.  WOW